Rebounding? Irvine Matchmakers Reveal Why It Won't Last

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Breakups are bad news for anyone. And going straight into dating someone new might seem like the perfect remedy for a heartache. But as Irvine matchmakers with nearly 30 years of experience, we know that rebound relationships rarely work. The best thing to do after a breakup is give yourself time to heal before entering the dating scene again. Right now your mind is clouded, and you’re not making the right choices.

Most people who enter a relationship after a breakup do it for the wrong reasons. They may try to make their ex jealous or might be date to avoid feeling lonely. These aren’t good reasons to start a new relationship. But there are many more reasons people gravitate to rebound partners. Let our Irvine matchmakers show you why rebound relationships are never a good idea.

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1. Rebound relationships move too fast.

Rebound relationships tend to move too fast and don’t have the get-to-know each other stage. We’re pretty sure rebounds are where one-night stands were born. Sleeping with someone too soon is a surefire way to burn out the relationship too quickly. The sex might be great, but you’re going to need more than that to have a strong relationship. Do you even know their hobbies and interests?

2. It’s a quick distraction.

Rebounds are only meant to be a quick distraction. Think of them as your favorite alcoholic drink: you get a buzz, you feel good for the time being, and it gives you an escape. But that’s just it—it’s only a quick escape. Rebounds are the same thing. They make you feel attractive, happy, and confident. They make you feel great all around and stop you from crying. However, this distraction and excitement ends quickly.

3. You don’t really care about them.

It might feel like you’re head over heels for him. He’s everything your ex isn’t. You can’t imagine your life without him. However, these feelings are only temporary. How much do you really know about him? Are you truly compatible? Have you lived together? This isn’t love—it’s called lust.

4. You’re still hurt and confused.

Whether you admit it or not, you’re still hurting from your ex. Do you really think a relationship is going to heal you from that pain? The pain of a breakup leads to a lot of confusion and bad choices. It is going to take months for you to feel normal again. Dragging someone else into the middle of your pain will only make things worse. We promise you that you’ll regret it later because you won’t be healed from your breakup and will have wasted all this time in a rebound relationship.

5. Someone’s going to get hurt.

Are you really ready for another breakup and to have your heart destroyed in a thousand pieces again? If you think your rebound relationship is going to be the one, you’re in for a rude awakening because someone is going to get hurt.

You are carrying too much baggage to start dating after a breakup. The other person will eventually resent you for using them to get over your ex. And if they break things off with you, you’re going to be in a worse place than when you started. Rebound relationships always have an expiration date.

We’re not saying that you can’t date after a breakup, but you should definitely give yourself plenty of time to heal before entering a new relationship. Make sure you don’t get involved with someone without giving yourself ample time to heal. It is not worth the pain.

Once you’re healed and ready to start dating again, contact our Irvine matchmakers today and let us help you find real love the second time around. To reserve your FREE (90-minute) matchmaking consultation with the best matchmakers in Orange County, simply fill out the confidential survey at the top of the page today!

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