Orange County Matchmakers Protect You from Crazy Exes

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At first things were awesome.  You thought you finally found love in Orange County, so much so that you blatantly ignored all the red flags that were telling you that this guy was crazy.  For some reason, you couldn’t get enough of him.  Eventually, after the honeymoon stage came to an end, you came to realize… he was crazy.

BAM—you break up.  Whatever happened, the relationship came to an end.  Now you’re dealing with an ex-boyfriend who is crazy, just like those guys on Criminal Minds.  Your ex has a long list of skills when it comes to manipulation.  In order to ensure you break loose from the chains of your ex-boyfriend, our Orange County matchmakers have some essentials you must do—immediately.

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1. You should have noticed the signs.

If you’re still debating whether to stay or go, ask yourself a few questions.  Is the guy you’re dating weird?  Does he say things that don’t sound right in your head?  Things like, “I love you” and “I would die for you.”  Or perhaps, “If I can’t have you, no one else will.”  These are warning signs you need to look for in the modern day dating scene.

If you have already broken up, has he started following you? Is he calling you numerous times a day? Does he constantly text or email disturbing things? This behavior is not acceptable.

If he starts talking about killing himself because you’re going to leave him, this is emotional blackmail.  Our Orange County matchmakers don’t want you to fall for this.  Don’t fall for a man who is forcing you to stay with him.

Some men will become violent as well.  Either way, this is not the type of man you want to be with.  He needs professional help and you need to get away from him as fast as you can.

2. Delete him from social media and block his number.

The first step you must take to protect yourself is blocking your ex from all your social media accounts.  You do not want him to see what you’re doing and start stalking you.  Your social media accounts can give him the inside scoop into your daily routines, which is the last thing you want.  Once he realizes you blocked him, you are likely to get a very negative response to him, but it’s the best thing for you.  Do the same with his phone number and block him.  The last thing you want is to be bombarded with phone calls or text messages begging for forgiveness.  Take it from our Orange County matchmakers, you need a clean break, which is exactly what this will accomplish.

3. Tell a family member what’s going on.

This guy has most likely done this before and is now trying to do it to you.  If this guy is threatening you in any way, or you think he is a danger to your life, tell a family member, preferably your mother or father.

Do not feel ashamed of telling your parents or another family member about the situation you’re in.  Trust us, those who love you would rather than know, even if you feel silly and he doesn’t do anything to harm you.  But they would hate for you to keep it from them and have something bad happen to you.

Your family will protect you against this crazy ex, especially if he has a reputation for being abusive or stalker-like.

4. Change your passwords.

Just like you want to delete him from your social media accounts and block his phone number, you also want to change your passwords and pin codes.  He could have them without you even knowing.  Crazy exes are known for their superior stalking abilities, and you wouldn’t believe what they’re capable of doing.  To play it safe, change all your passwords.

5. Talk to your boss.

Has your ex threatened to show up to your work if you don’t respond to his phone calls or messages?  If this is the case, our Orange County matchmakers want you to talk to your superiors and let them know what is going on.  It is important you talk to them in case your crazy ex shows up to your work and causes a scene.

If you think there is a chance he will show up, tell your boss as soon as you can.  This is another defense that will protect you because you have already warned your boss.  He or she will also serve as a witness in case you have an incident and need to press charges against him.

6. Avoid him at all costs.

If you can, park close to your work, don’t go out at night by yourself, and stay away from places you know he frequents.  He clearly knows your routine, so try to shake it up a little to throw him off.

Make sure that a friend or family member knows where you’re going if you’re going out alone.  If you’re going out with your girls, show them a picture so they can spot him if he’s lurking around.

Our Orange County matchmakers never want you to talk to him, even if he begs you to give him another chance.  Tell him that you have moved on from the relationship and that you want nothing to do with him.  If he shows up to your home or work, call the cops immediately.  You don’t need this in your life.  The police are there for a reason, and they’re there to protect you against things like this.

Sometimes protecting yourself might seem like overreacting, but believe us, it’s not.  Trust your gut, and if it doesn’t feel right, don’t hesitate to take action.

Unfortunately, the California dating scene is filed with men who are a little crazy.  But luckily for you, there is an alternative—a safe and secure way of dating.  If you want to meet quality men who have been vetted and are safe and fit to date, contact our Orange County matchmakers today.

 

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