The more you date, the more you feel like you come across nothing but fickle men and absolute duds. But believe us, there are still many quality single men in Orange County who are looking for a great catch like yourself.
You’ve heard it time and time again, that there are plenty of good men out there, right? So where are they? And why can’t you find them? Why does it feel like all the good men have already been swopped up? Why does it feel like there are no good fish left in the sea? Today, our Irvine matchmakers will show you the reasons you—and many other frustrated women—feel this way.
1. Women exaggerate about the men they’re dating.
Your best friend might tell you that she landed the most wonderful man in the world, but how do you know that’s true? We’re willing to bet you’ve come across a few quality men in Orange County without even realizing it. Hearing all about your girlfriends’ boyfriends is hindering your dating life. Because your expectations are so high, you might have let go of a great catch without even realizing it.
2. You assume you’ll never find the one.
Because no one can ever live up to your expectations, you automatically assume all the good ones are already in a relationship. If a good catch comes your way, you probably send him packing because he doesn’t look like the Hollywood hunk you’re expecting. Ladies, that idea you have in your head is preventing you from finding love. And the quicker you realize it, the quicker you’ll find the one.
3. You expect everything to happen right away.
The strongest and most successful relationships out there are the ones where two partners start out as friends and evolved into lovers. For you, though, this takes too long. Maybe you are not seeing how great this man is because you’re expecting too much, and way too soon. Ladies, you need to give a man time to reach his full potential. No man can ever give you everything all at once. And you are skipping over good candidates because of it. Stop being so hard on men and expecting everything to happen all at once.
4. You’re looking for men in all the wrong places.
Of course you’re going to say that all the good ones are taken if you’re looking for dates on Tinder and online dating sites. Quality men, AKA great catches, are not going to be hiding out on Tinder. Instead, you’ll find them reading a good book at local coffee shops, attending seminars, looking for love through professional matchmakers. Relationship-minded men are not trolling online dating sites where everything revolves around good looks and hooking up.
If you keep searching for the one in sketchy places, you’ll always end up disappointed.
5. You only see what you want to see.
If he is already in a relationship and you can’t have him, you’ll assume that he is the greatest catch in the world. But if he were single, it would be completely different. If he were available for you, then you would see all his flaws. And you can rest assured you would find them.
6. Your standards are through the roof.
If you’re wondering why you can’t find good single men in Orange County, then it might all revolve around you. Yes, that person looking back in the mirror could have unrealistic standards. If you are wondering why you can’t find a quality man who looks like George Clooney, drives a Lambo, and will touch your feet while you watch TV, that’s because he doesn’t exist. You need to drop your high standards and readjust them so you can finally find the one. This is something our Irvine matchmakers encourage our clients to do too. We want everyone to be a little more realistic when it comes to finding a partner. But don’t take this the wrong way, ladies. We never want you to settle for less than you deserve.
7. Some men don’t know how to date.
Believe it or not, society has led men to act different in the modern dating world. Many men think they need to wait several days before reaching out to you after a date, while others think they need to play dating games. These behaviors are making all guys look worse to you and diminishing your romantic hope.
8. You’re terrified of falling in love.
If there is one thing scarier than being single, it’s falling in love. If you’re afraid to open your heart up to someone, you’ll always push men away and think that all the good men are taken when they’re truly not.
9. You’re expecting a “10.”
Not only do you expect a man to sweep and clean your house, touch your feet, and run your errands, but now you’re expecting someone with six-pack abs and larger than life muscles. If you are expecting a “10” and won’t settle for a “9,” then of course you’re going to think all the good ones are taken.
10. You want a hopeless romantic.
Expecting a man to show up to the first date with a dozen roses or to take you on a horse and carriage ride around Orange County is unrealistic in today’s dating scene. Of course that works in the movies; after all, it’s the movies! You can’t expect a Romeo-like relationship today because it just won’t happen.
So tell us, does it really feel like all the good ones are taken, or is it your high expectations? If you want to meet quality single men in Orange County who are great catches, contact our Irvine matchmakers today. Fill out the private form at the top of the page because we have them right here waiting for you!
